“There was once a man with two sons”

A message based on Luke 15: 1-3, 11b – 32

“There was once a man who had two sons . . .” Today’s scripture story is probably one of the most familiar of Jesus’ parables; at least, the first part of it is. For most of my life, I’ve heard it called, “The Parable of the Prodigal Son.” One son. However, the parable has two sons — a younger one and an elder son. It also has a father, who is really the main character of the story. It’s the father’s actions that drive the story — that are the most decisive. 

“There was once a man with two sons.”

This isn’t just  story about a person who led a wild life and then had a conversation experience and found his way home. Many of the sermons I have heard and read give the impression that that is what it is primarily about. 

This is a story about a family. It is a story about a family navigating its way through the messiness and disappointments, the hurts and betrayals that happen whenever human beings live in relationship with each other. 

It is a story Jesus told to the Pharisees and the religion scholars. That means that it is specifically directed to the people of God. It is about the shape of the Kingdom of God that Jesus said is ‘at hand’.

The Pharisees and the religion scholars — the committed leaders of God’s family — were complaining that Jesus was giving too much time and attention to people they called ‘sinners’. It is not really clear what the Pharisees and religion scholars meant by calling the people with whom Jesus was hanging out ‘sinners’.

Just before this, Jesus had been encouraging the religious leaders to host parties that included the poor, the crippled, the lame and the blind — the misfits, the homeless, the wretched. Outsiders. The people who had been pushed to the margins of the community because they did not fit in easily. They did not look like they belonged. They looked different. They behaved differently. They moved in different social circles. They lived by different standards. They probably held different views about the important issues of the day.

When Jesus included them in the community of God’s people and the religious insiders complained, Jesus told them three parables about something that was lost. Whatever was lost was sought for and when it was found, everyone was invited to a celebration party. The third of the parables was about a man who had two sons. 

The younger son was the wild child and broke all the rules.

The older son was the obedient son who kept all the rules and resented the son who didn’t. 

Throughout the parable, it is the father who just keeps navigating these fractured relationships. Again and again, he sacrifices his own dignity and his own position in order to bring this family together despite their differences. With extravagant love, he keeps pulling the two sons back into community with each other. He invites them to come together beyond the barriers that they have put between themselves.

“God was in Christ,” says the apostle Paul, “reconciling the world to God.” In Christ, God reconciles us to God by entering into our communities. With extravagant love and grace, God sacrifices God’s own life in the work of bringing God’s children together in spite of their differences. God reconciles us to God by putting us into community with other people.

What we know about that community is that Jesus has very eclectic taste. He puts us into community with other people, some of whom we have very little in common.

What we do have in common is that Jesus’ death and resurrection sets us free to live without fear. Living in the power of Jesus’ victory over the powers of death, we are free to let go of the protective barriers we put around our hearts.

What we have in common is that the Holy Spirit is at work among us. As we navigate our life together through all the things we don’t have in common, the Holy Spirit is shaping us into the kind of community that reflects the love and grace of the community that we know as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. It is the kind of community where we find healing for the brokenness and the wounds that are part of being human in this world. 

This week I heard about another nearby congregation that is shutting down. Do you know what is sad about all the churches closing these days? Many things, of course, but chief among them is that there are fewer and fewer places where people are gaining the skills and the habits and the character they need in order to live in community with other people. 

So many people are desperately searching for authentic community — for a place where they know they belong; where they are cherished and supported and loved and cared for. Yet, they lack the very qualities of character and soul that are needed to create and sustain that kind of community.

Being in authentic community with others doesn’t just happen because your soul is thirsty for it, because you long for it. Being in community with others — especially in the kind of community where people are cherished and supported and loved and cared for — is hard work. The qualities of soul and character that form those kinds of communities are nurtured and developed slowly, over long periods of time. In company with others who are also being formed by the Spirit of Christ, you learn slowly, sometimes painfully, the fine arts of forgiveness and patience and humility and grace. 

You cannot develop those capacities by yourself. You need other people —especially other people who are different from you. You need other people who stay on the journey with you, even when the path goes through rough terrain. You need other people who stay in relationship even when hurt happens and it would be easier to walk away. You stay with it because God keeps meeting you in the place of hurt and brokenness. God keeps pulling you back into relationships with people whom Jesus has changed from strangers and enemies into your brothers and sisters.

If there are no churches left to be that kind of community, where will people become the kind of people who are capable of living in peace with one another, cherishing our differences as precious gifts that make our lives richer?

One of the things that the pandemic has shown us is that human community is both very precious and frighteningly precarious. One of the first things that happened in the pandemic was that we were isolated from each other. Almost everyone was cut off from their usual ways of being in community with each other.

Two years in, we are witnessing how that isolation has diminished our capacity for being in relationships with people who are different from us; people with whom we disagree over important matters. People get divided into separated camps, each fiercely defending their own territory, their own convictions. Our communities are emerging from the pandemic wounded, fractured, weakened, even less capable of nourishing and enriching people’s lives than they were before the pandemic. 

We come to this moment, concerned for our communities and wondering what we can do. Over many years, God has been at work among you, building you into the kind of community that has gained wisdom about what it takes to be in community with each other. There have been some pretty painful times. Those difficult times  forged in you humility and grace and some sense of how costly forgiveness can be. 

We don’t do ‘community’ perfectly but the kind of community we are is a gift that God has formed amongst us for the sake of the world in which we live. 

You and I are here together at this place and in this time because “there was once a man who had two sons” and the two children had forgotten that their life, their well-being depended upon each other, as different as they were. What transformed the situation was that the Father refused to let either of them stay lost or dead in their separation from each other.

You and I are here, together in this place at this time because the Father is relentlessly at work in our lives and in our communities. Our Saviour is even now seeking out the lost ones, the ones who feel that they don’t fit anywhere, the ones that feel they don’t have a place where they are deeply cherished. God’s Holy Spirit is relentlessly at work inviting us and them into community together with Jesus — a community where all can be healed and grow and flourish and find the salvation and healing that our souls long for.

You and I are here because we get to be ambassadors for Christ. We get to host a grand party where all are welcome. Where everyone gets to hear the Father say, “You are my beloved child.” 

If we don’t do it, who will?

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The Church’s Mission isn’t about “Meeting Needs”

“Our mission to the world cannot make creation whole again, any more than we can create wholeness in ourselves or our churches. We offer the world only the grace of God, and that can never be confused with problem solving. It is high time we let go of all mission strategies that offer optimistic social agendas for the world. Instead, our mission is to live in the midst of brokenness that we cannot fix with a vision of God’s healing — healing from the damage people have wrought by playing god in the world”.
Craig Barnes in Yearning: Living Between How It Is And How It Ought To Be, p. 174.

So often I hear or read advice to congregations about vision or mission statements that suggest that the church’s mission is about ‘meeting needs’. Congregations are to find a need in the neighbourhood that matches the interests, skills, and passion of their people. Then, they are to develop a programme or project that will meet that need.

I am troubled by that approach. It seems to me that it sets the church as one more provider of a product that others will consume.  How often have you heard someone suggest that one of the failings of the church is that it doesn’t advertise enough? That it needs better marketing?

I know that we are often not ‘on the radar’ for many people. Ask a stranger, “Could you direct me to  . . . Church?”  and there’s a good possibility that s/he won’t be able to do that, even if the church building is in sight. I also know that people often don’t know all that the church is doing in the community. Those are both indications that a congregation needs to get better connected with its neighbourhood.

However, I don’t think ‘church’ is a consumer product. I don’t believe that declines in participation will be fixed by better marketing. I don’t think that the mission of the church is about ‘meeting needs’ or fixing social problems.

I like Craig Barnes’ reminder that the church’s work is be a witness to and a foretaste of the healing and redeeming work that God is doing in the world. And, I am challenged by his comments that “our mission is to live in the midst of brokenness that we cannot fix with a vision of God’s healing”. That sets the church within mystery, within relationships, within a deep respect for the holiness of life. It seems to me that that is a better description of what we are about.

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